One of my closest friends is super open to talking about sex and loves to talk about it! I still remember when we were fairly new friends how surprised I was by this because none of my other friends were like this. I found it refreshing and I have learned so much from her! To your point when you have friends you can talk openly about sex to you feel less alone, you learn things, you pick up tips or ideas - and I think it’s a lot of fun! I find the setting does help - we love to go on long walks or hikes together and I find that to be a great place to talk about it!
I agree with this. I made a group of girlfriends in the last year and the first time one of them talked about masturbation and everyone else shared their experience it was so freeing.
For a few years after having babies I would practically POUNCE at the chance to have conversations with my friends about sex because I NEEDED validation that I was having enough sex (internalized patriarchy). Then I had a friend say "as long as you are happy with the amount of sex you are having, then who cares." It was like a light switched in my brain. Now I talk about sex with my spouse as it relates to that "how much are we having" and "how could it be better/change."
I love this, Kelly! I think that's so important — it's not about the quantity of sex you're having, it's about the quality slash how you're feeling about it.
Interesting results! Two points: 1) I was always taught that talking about sex to friends was not respectful to the other person you are having sex with. They may or may not want the details of their intimate life shared openly, and thus, I just don’t cross that line. And 2) Religion and sex was painted in such a negative light here! My religion has helped me see the beauty of intimacy and has enhanced my sex life entirely.
Hi! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 1) That’s totally fair; we heard that sentiment a lot in the responses. If someone does want to talk about sex with their friends, I’d tell them to ask their partner what’s generally on vs off limits (that’s what I did, after a few missteps.) And 2) I’m so glad that’s been your experience!!
Oh, I will be *so* seated for the new Bedroom Diaries series.
Ahhh we’re so excited to share it!
One of my closest friends is super open to talking about sex and loves to talk about it! I still remember when we were fairly new friends how surprised I was by this because none of my other friends were like this. I found it refreshing and I have learned so much from her! To your point when you have friends you can talk openly about sex to you feel less alone, you learn things, you pick up tips or ideas - and I think it’s a lot of fun! I find the setting does help - we love to go on long walks or hikes together and I find that to be a great place to talk about it!
I agree with this. I made a group of girlfriends in the last year and the first time one of them talked about masturbation and everyone else shared their experience it was so freeing.
Having one person open up can knock down the dominos! I love this.
For a few years after having babies I would practically POUNCE at the chance to have conversations with my friends about sex because I NEEDED validation that I was having enough sex (internalized patriarchy). Then I had a friend say "as long as you are happy with the amount of sex you are having, then who cares." It was like a light switched in my brain. Now I talk about sex with my spouse as it relates to that "how much are we having" and "how could it be better/change."
I love this, Kelly! I think that's so important — it's not about the quantity of sex you're having, it's about the quality slash how you're feeling about it.
YES! And, honestly, I still have to remind myself of that sometimes.
Can’t wait for Bedroom Diaries!
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So good. Can't wait for this!!
We're very excited too 🤠
Interesting results! Two points: 1) I was always taught that talking about sex to friends was not respectful to the other person you are having sex with. They may or may not want the details of their intimate life shared openly, and thus, I just don’t cross that line. And 2) Religion and sex was painted in such a negative light here! My religion has helped me see the beauty of intimacy and has enhanced my sex life entirely.
Hi! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 1) That’s totally fair; we heard that sentiment a lot in the responses. If someone does want to talk about sex with their friends, I’d tell them to ask their partner what’s generally on vs off limits (that’s what I did, after a few missteps.) And 2) I’m so glad that’s been your experience!!
So interesting!!