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Gillian's avatar

Best article I’ve read on supporting someone who’s grieving in a long time 💛 thank you!

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Lou's avatar

Loved this! Adding to #2: Don’t try to cheer them up or (unless you are an expert) question the current medical assessment. I am currently pregnant with twins and we were told one might not survive. „But at least the other one is doing well“ - I just don’t know what to say to that, of course I am super grateful AND I already love both of them. Ask questions instead of making assumptions- e.g. our realistic best case scenario entails (at least) 2 months of Nicu - if you think the other person might be „too upset“ about those news, because your cousin‘s daughter was a couple of days in Nicu as well and she turned out fine - ask for additional information. And it‘s okay to ask and say the „wrong“ thing - we are all lesrning.

last point- if you can’t show up because you have currently too much on your own plate- that’s fine too, tell them exactly that

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